“Should I tell my partner I have HPV?”
“Do I need to tell my boyfriend I have HPV?”
These are common mental struggle for those who are first diagnosed with Human Papillomavirus, because it is never easy to discuss about it.
As a matter of fact, many people who have HPV consider not to disclose it to their partners for varying reasons — some feel ashamed of themselves, some are afraid that they might scare their loved ones away, while some reckon they don’t have to tell.
Should You Tell Your Partner: “I Have HPV”?
With the World Health Organization (WHO) estimated 20 million people are infected with genital human papillomavirus in the United States and 6.2 million new diagnoses annually –
HPV is certainly one the most common sexually transmitted infection (STI) that you are certainly not alone, and you should not be ashamed of it.
According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), anyone who is sexually active can get HPV, even if you have had sex with only one person.
Having HPV means that you have exposed to a common virus and isn’t actually a reflection on yourself, your character or your values. You don’t have to ask for an apology.
It would be a wiser choice to tell your partner on the truth that you have HPV, as honesty and transparency have a wide-ranging, long-term impact in human relationships. It will also give you peace of mind and will free you from the continuous dilemma that you are hiding something from your loved one.
If you are in a new relationship, it’s best to discuss this as early as possible. Once you told your partner about having HPV and he or she accepts it, then this might not be a big deal for him or her, ensuring that you will have a good relationship in the long run — just like the real life examples below:
thom82 feedback his experience via WedMD forum: “I was diagnosed with HPV just after I had started to date someone for a few weeks… I braced myself for the worst, expecting she might say she doesn’t want to see me anymore. I was so surprised and relieved after I told her! Not only could I get it off my chest and be honest, but she was so supportive and was glad I was honest with her. She knew it was tough to say and therefore respected me even more as a person for telling her!”
mem7642 commented via MD Junction forum: “I told my boyfriend I explained to him that I was diagnosed with HPV and that in some people it causes warts (I have them)… My boyfriend took it very well and we both went to have him checked out and the doctor showed us how we can check each other for bumps at home. This has turned into a learning experience for us, as well as a bonding experience.”
Recommended read: Can a Man / Woman Get HPV from Receiving and Giving Oral?
However, let’s be realistic:
If you unfortunately encounter predicament like the unpleasant experience shared in the post below, then please stay strong and just move on — at least you found out early.
Blue5 shared his story via HPV Support forum: “I dated a girl for about 5 months… it was going great, I’ve had HPV for 2 years by the way… I knew I had to tell her, since I respected her… I told her and told her why I was telling her, and after that… her previously open schedule suddenly became full, the emails that were previously returned the same day went unanswered for weeks, and she never returned phone calls.”
How to Tell Someone You Have HPV or Genital Warts?
Before discussing HPV with your partner, you have to first understand that HPV infection does not necessarily mean that you have done anything wrong.
People who are sexually active are often exposed to HPV at some point in time, even if majority of people have never had visible symptoms and still unaware of it.
While it is understandable that telling someone you have HPV is never easy, especially you won’t know what will be his/her reaction —
You should open up about this topic and discuss it with him or her, help your partner / wife / husband to develop a good understanding about the virus to avoid hype and myths about HPV.
Get yourself educated with factual information about HPV based on your healthcare service provider or trustworthy sources, make sure you know what it is you are going to share, and then talk to your partner about your HPV infection.
For instance, as of now, there are 100 HPV types and about 40 of these are associated with sexual transmission and anogenital skin. Among them, low-risk HPV may cause genital warts, while high-risk HPV could cause abnormal cell changes that could lead to cervical cancer .
Useful Resource: HPV – Human Papillomavirus Fact Sheet by the US CDC
Watch the video below if you need dating guidance on how to tell a new partner you have HPV or STD.
I Have HPV – Now What? What Can I Do?
Although U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) indicates that over 90% of HPV infections are cleared by the body itself within 2 years, HPV can stay inside your body and become active again, especially when your immunity is weakened.
For your body to fight HPV or continue make the virus dormant in your body, you would need to build your immune system.
With medical research results by The University of Texas Health Science Center Medical School indicates that natural extract from Japanese Shiitake mushrooms called Active Hexose Correlated Compound (AHCC) can help to eradicate HPV, it is certainly a good news.
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